11 / 08 / 2021


But I spent most of my life not feeling good enough, worthy enough, pretty enough

I used to look in the mirror and hate what I saw, beat myself up for the acne on my face, the thickness of my thighs, the dark circles under my eyes

I used to talk down to myself for not getting the best grades everytime, winning the awards or getting acknowledged for my efforts.

Because if there was no acknowledgement that means I mustn’t have been good enough to be acknowledged.


To me attention was the form of love I was seeking, and lead me down the path of my eating disorder 

If I was skinny enough, then people would like me, maybe even love me… 

If I was achieving more academically, or in life then maybe my dad would take more of an interest in me 

If I was stronger, more sporty, and more confident, maybe I would attract a guy that would want to be with me

I placed my self-worth in the hands of everyone around me, and gave my power away, and it led me down a dark battle with my mental health (a story I hope to feel confident to share one day).

This constant lack of belief in my worth followed me everywhere I went. In some ways it was a powerful motivator to be better, to strive to achieve more. I can see now how the belief that ‘I am not good enough’ was trying to serve me… But man, it was not the best way to go about it. 

In believing that I needed others’ love and approval to be worthy, it meant that I could never be happy within myself, I had to keep pushing myself to the point of extremes and my all or nothing mindset was consuming. 

I began thinking I was either a complete success (which didn’t last long) or an utter failure. You see that’s the thing in giving your power away and relying on those around you for approval and love… what can be given can just as quickly be taken away. 

Not only that, but it doesn’t run as deep, it’s short lived and before you know it, you are back in the same cycle repeating the same patterns that drive you to seek external validation from others. 


It wasn’t until I actively sought out the help of a coach, started doing the inner work (mindset, emotional, reprogramming limiting beliefs etc), that things really started to shift. 

I learnt techniques that went beyond daily affirmations, and started to give myself the love that I needed, that my inner child had needed, I began doing mirror work, deep journaling practices, reiki healing sessions, meditations, self-reflection as tools to help free myself from the cycle that I had trapped myself in. 

Using these tools, alongside coaching and establishing a deeper self-awareness I was able to start to see the truths… that I was enough. In fact, I was enough simply because I was alive. 

That there was only one of me on this planet, and only one person in this world with my unique gifts, just like there is only one of you with your unique gifts. 

No matter our background, ethnicity, gender identity or job, we all have a role here on this planet, and we all are inherently worthy of being here. 

It has taken me YEARS of doing the inner work, becoming more aware of my patterns, negative self-talk, deepening my consciousness to really truly believe this, and I am so happy to be in a much better place. 

But the work, and the journey is never over. That is why it is called a journey… unfortunately we don’t just wake up one day and love all parts of us always. Our limits are always going to be tested, as we are always meant to be growing, but the way you do it along the way can either be from a place of hatred and negativity, or from a place of love and compassion.

From a 13 year old girl who used to cry at the bumps on her face and the thickness of her thighs, to a woman who still strives to have more toning in her legs and clear skin, but is at complete ACCEPTANCE for where she is currently at… that is the difference. That is love… being able to accept yourself, ALL of you, for ALL that you are, flaws and all. 

If this resonates, and you feel like you are struggling, please know that you are not alone, you are inherently worthy, and that support is everywhere… reach out to a coach for support, or a therapist, or if you just want someone to talk to, I am here… DM me on instagram @strengthen.heal.nourish or email me: my inbox is always open!  

Yours in Health,
Sheree xo 

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